{"id":390,"date":"2018-07-08T16:28:44","date_gmt":"2018-07-08T20:28:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jalyhe.wordpress.com\/?p=390"},"modified":"2020-11-02T04:31:39","modified_gmt":"2020-11-02T04:31:39","slug":"a-chance-encounter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.jaly.us\/?p=390","title":{"rendered":"A Chance Encounter"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yesterday my dissertation adviser came over to visit with me, with his 10 years old grandson in tow. We had lunch at a restaurant across from the Stony Brook Railroad Station. While we were eating, in came a black woman who sat at the next table. She asked whether I could order lunch for her. I told her that the servers could speak English. She said no, she wanted me to buy her lunch. Okay, I said, finally understanding her meaning.<\/p>\n

When I first came over to the United States, an American roommate told me that I should not give cash to beggars, but I\u2019d much better give food. For with money, they could potentially buy drugs, and that would not be what I wished for. But food could not be changed for anything illicit. In this case, for me to buy her lunch, I thought, would be quite reasonable. Only that I’ve never seen, nor heard of something like this.<\/p>\n

So there we were, the three of us, eating and chatting, while she ate by herself at a nearby table. When she was done, she stood up, gave me a deep bow, said pleasantry loudly to everybody in the restaurant, and proceeded to leave. The server chased after her to hand her the check, and both she and I gestured for the server to hand the check to me. The check was for $13.52. In this restaurant many dishes were more than that, some quite a bit more! In other words, she was very disciplined when ordering food. I was quite touched!<\/p>\n

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